Silently -- Sometimes We Slip (and Convey What We Don't Necessarily Want To) By Micro-Expressions

We (sometimes) may voluntarily want to conceal our thoughts or emotions, and we may involuntarily convey them to a discerning observer. Micro-expressions and "the windows of the soul" are significant ways we may slip and convey what we don't necessarily want to.

When you look into someone's eyes, how well can you guesstimate what's going on inside their head? Their thoughts, feelings, and intentions, may be significantly signified by their (non-verbal/silent) body language; and it's the micro-expressions that are quite fascinating.

How well can you tell what's up with a person, by looking into "the windows of their soul" -- as well as, reading their body language; micro-facial-expressions?




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Trusting Too Deeply -- Learning From the Blabber and Gaining Insight

When we confide in someone, leaving-out the "between you and me" part, because we are taking as a given the confidential affinity we have with the other party, thinking that they have the common-sense not to blab the information shared with them -- we probably should not be put-off  by their lack of common-sense to filter what we wanted them to hold-back. We should instead, gain a little common-sense ourselves, while gaining insight from our mistake of trusting too deeply. 

(Just between you and me -- lol) Have you ever thought about the above ironical situation, regarding common-sense and confidentiality? 

A Perspective Regarding the Confusing Programming We Tend to Be Taught About the Value of Looks

We communicate that "looks don't really matter"... Really?? The need to look attractive, is programmed in us from a very early age.
A nice body and a pretty-face/handsome-face, is the ideal condition to have; true?
On the flip-side; We contradict ourselves with rationalizations, that help us to deal with physical imperfection. On one hand, we state that looks do matter; and on the other hand, when we state that looks don't matter -- it's what's on the inside that counts.
What really may count, is the great amount of money that is made through the promotion of beauty. The media, speaks louder than a consoling and well-meaning friend, who tries to tell ya that "you're beautiful, from the inside-out" -- rather than, "you're beautiful, inside and out" (which is a compassionate and humbling way, of letting someone know, that he or she is lacking in the physically-beautiful state).
Society tends to give offer a lot of contradictory programming. Beauty-wise, we need to be all that we can be; as well as personality and character-wise. However -- Being that physical perfection can be gaged immediately (and my blind us, of what may be inside), like the quality of a book by it's cover-- looks, have a great influence. And it's up to us, to find a happy value-system median, when it comes to the value that we place upon looks and the regard that we have for them as people; and not simply Gods or Goddesses, or worthy of more attention or esteem, than the simple Shrek-like morph.

If We Have Genuine Self-Control -- Who Needs to Point Fingers at Others?

Self-control is a great thing to master. However -- We may sometimes get confused by what we need or want to defend. Standing-firm and defending ourselves is very necessary, for self-esteem and self-protectiveness.

Defending others, is also a great thing. To put someone in their place when we believe that they are wrong, generally is a good thing. Unless, we are (actually) wrong, and the core-motive for putting them in their place is about criticising them; and a twisted way of pointing fingers at them, instead of remaining blinded to our own faults -- all for the sake of compensating for our own lack of self control.

How many people do you believe, correct and criticise, or blame-shift,  all for the sake of compensating for their own mistakes and weak points? (It's all about being human; is it not?)

Adults May Act Like Adults -- Or Secretly Identify With the Temper-Tantrum-Having Kid in the Store

When we are at the grocery store, and we see a child having a temper-tantrum, our first thought might be regarding the hopes that the parents of the child, will immediately find a way to quiet and smooth the child.

If the tantrum continues, we may become really disconcertingly put-off by all of the noise and out-of-control behavior.

And, after-a-while -- we may identify with the child's frustration; perhaps, secretly wishing that we could throw-up our hands and start kicking and screaming out of tiredness and an overall rough day. It may be funny though, because the child is the one who gets the privilege of getting-away with the attention-getting tantrum act (something, that we as adults could never do); and we may joke to one another, about how we want to go home too.

Hey -- Doesn't the Sound of Your Name Sound So Sweet?

"Hey, you", might sound affectionate and cute to the one addressing another person that way -- but, "Hey, you" may not be taken so well, by the subject of the term.

The connection made by using another person's name, while addressing them is profoundly of dignity and respect. It is identifying and addressing another, with a personal identification, that conveys a message of a respectful human connection, if presented with affection and high regard.

For individuals who find it hard to remember names, it might be worth their while, to take it upon themselves, to be more name-conscious (if you will).

After-all, as one human being affectionately says another person's name -- the positive outcome may have to be a positive affinity with the other individual. An immediate like-ability established, for both parties, because -- the sound of one's own name, is probably one of the sweetest (as they say). (And I think it may work well with cats and dogs too!) (lol...)

Have You Ever Spent What Seemed Like an Eternity While On the Phone On-Hold?

Being put "on-hold" when you call someone on the telephone is one thing. However -- When you call (a business) and are put on-hold for more than five minutes, it is (of course) an annoyance, especially if you have things to do, and places to go; not to mention -- other places to call.

It's annoying, unless, you have nothing better to do, than to wait patiently listening to some cool elevator music, or to listen for the (repeated) recorded message that prompts you to wait, because all of the assistants are not available, and one should be with you shortly.

What is worse than being put on-hold, just to hear those recorded messages and elevator music? Could it be, playing phone tag, with the receptionist?

What are your thoughts about being put on-hold, when you call someone? And, have you ever spent what seemed like an eternity waiting on-hold for someone to get back with you?

Method and Speed-Wise -- Are You In-Sync With Your Partner?

If you are in a relationship, would you say that you and your partner dance in-sync with each other? Or, do you guys ever "step on each others toes" when it comes to doing simple things, like grocery shopping?

Does your partner, like to make a list and you like to browse before deciding on what to get? Do you like to speed-shop; getting everything you need, just about as quickly as Superman/woman? Is your partner pokey and you are always in a mad-dash?

It would seem that most couples would have a clue, whether or not they are in-sync with each other speed-wise and have agreeable methods of doing things, before they get into a serious commitment relationship. However -- there are probably many couples, who love each other immensely; but, who do not agree with some minor things, such as the speed in which their partners drive or shop.

Archie and Edith Bunker -- Such Polarized-Opposites

What was up, with the characters of Archie and Edith Bunker on the television program "All in the Family"?

They loved each other enough to tolerate one another, have Gloria (their daughter), and sometimes Archie demonstrate a facade of respect for Edith; while Edith tolerated his demeaning ways, as if they were normal and acceptable.

Every-now-and-again, Edith would "let her hair down" and stick-up for herself; just as, every-now-and-again, Archie would demonstrate his tender-side.

The characters of Archie and Edith Bunker were like polarized-opposites. Archie, demonstrating his ignorance by arrogance; and Edith demonstrating her ignorance by "ding-bat-ness" -- and together, they showed us that no matter how incompatible someone is, as a couple -- they may overcome the disharmony, with a lot of denial and a "meat-head" as a rational coach.

Introspective Retrospection and Insight -- To Grow Wiser and More Sensitive of Our Actions

When you are sensitively aware of the effects of your actions, their consequences and the way they effect others, you may be a better person than a person who is either ignorant of the effects of his or her actions, or who arrogantly and insensitively does not care.

We may all have done something to someone or something, which really could have warranted a "now, how could I have done that?" -- which prompted a feeling of immense regret.

I suppose, that being aware and sensitive to our actions is about time and growing-up. We are not all wise, immediately.

We can't change our past-actions, of coarse. We can, however, grow wiser with a bit of introspective retrospection and insight.