When your friends are effected by others, in a negative way, and they need you to back them up or sympathize with them -- do you ever tell them that they should not let the others 'get them down'? And if you do, how do you beleive that the statement comes across? Have you ever come across someone, who needs you to support them, when others or things get them down; and you find yourself involved deeply in sympathizing with them --
later, finding that when you need some support, they continually seem to buff-you-off with a 'you shouldn't let things get you down'?
They may (typically) be very supportive and well-meaning, when they give you that advise. Or, they may (present to) be very non-caring, if the term is used without any additional support or all of the time.
If you have ever told someone, that they should not let someone or something 'get them down' or something else (to that effect) -- you may have been very well-meaning. Or, you may have not seen the indifference of that term, that was probably very-well well-meaning; (or, not).
What are your thoughts about the above responses, that have been presented? Do you see, that (when over-used), the terms may seem like a callous buff-off? Or, do you view this perspective regarding the terms presented, to be something that you feel indifferent about. It's okay; I'll try not to let it get to me. (Just kidding).